For me and my own image as one of the boys, it has been a fulfilling experience so far. I have been extremely lucky to be born in the family which I am now. My class- which tells me and more often reminds me the expectations that society around me has. A sacred pact- that tells me, that I can have a house, a car, access to higher education, good meals, a warm bed to sleep on with- it is something that more than half of the population can only dream of. In return, I have to behave myself, act like what my parents wants, constantly think about the societal pressures, pretend that I have no desires, can’t smoke and drink at my own will, can't even be seen buying them, can’t decide which higher education to go for, cant fall in love with a female from a different community and can’t live and enjoy life on my own terms.
This wonderful symbiosis is well explained by my upper middle class parents. Any threat to their respect and status in the society is seriously taken. And when things go out of hand and little sensitive, as it happened in my case it is meticulously dealt with.
They make you sit down, give you a cold glass of water and then in a very soft tone explain you about how going against the well established family tradition is criminal, going against the century old norms is dangerous. They emotionally blackmail you and nine times of out ten they succeed in this exercise.
But the question that begs asking is how much can anybody get dictated. Is it because they have given LIFE to us and hence we have to listen to them every time. Can’t we, for a change, decide what we want in life?
On the other hand, this fragile situation makes me wonder that even I could have negotiated my own way amidst everything, only if I would have reclaimed the I in the beautiful word called LIFE.
And I swear I would reclaim what was already mine, may be tomorrow or day after. I just hope it’s not too LATE
This wonderful symbiosis is well explained by my upper middle class parents. Any threat to their respect and status in the society is seriously taken. And when things go out of hand and little sensitive, as it happened in my case it is meticulously dealt with.
They make you sit down, give you a cold glass of water and then in a very soft tone explain you about how going against the well established family tradition is criminal, going against the century old norms is dangerous. They emotionally blackmail you and nine times of out ten they succeed in this exercise.
But the question that begs asking is how much can anybody get dictated. Is it because they have given LIFE to us and hence we have to listen to them every time. Can’t we, for a change, decide what we want in life?
On the other hand, this fragile situation makes me wonder that even I could have negotiated my own way amidst everything, only if I would have reclaimed the I in the beautiful word called LIFE.
And I swear I would reclaim what was already mine, may be tomorrow or day after. I just hope it’s not too LATE
Comments
U should be very happy that u r moving along the different paths of life where,in each and every step u have ur parents blessings and support...... so what if they stop u at some times...... Don't u feel they hav the complete rite to do so....Any ways would like to know in detail........
bt then things are changing slowly bt surely.
so we might feel the brunt of the difference in generation, but stil rem always our parents love us and its for our wellbeing they warn us. its nt like the movies or serials whr a mother/father/bro/sis conspires against her/his son/daughter/etc.
i dont agree wit sandy, sacrifice is essential at sme point in life, bt then nt where one's own life is at stake, caz at end of day the sacrifice wud hurt nt only self bt our parents too.
I liked wat u wrote and to some extent I can relate to it as well..But dude don't give up. The key here is to learn how to have good communication with ur parents..trust me in 5 out 10 cases parents bend to their children's wishes.
ofcourse if u think ur parents are rite listen to them. But if u think ur rite then rationally put ur word across. Make sure u have all points covered.
Never ignore any piece of advice from them. Listen to it and take how much u wanna. And as far as liking a girl outside community goes, well i hope u dont regret dat decision. Dude i shall kill u. and if ur meant to be wid some1 outside ur community nothing wil stop dat.
But you know what... every relationship has a "give and take" in it... parents-child is no exception...
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